So, it looks like it’s been a while since I wrote my last post. I thought I ought to get back into writing since there are some people who will be expecting frequent posts during my upcoming trip to India this December. What a better time to write out all my reflections than Thanksgiving.
As the Canadian long weekend comes to an end, I’m thanking God for the relationships in my life. I’m thankful to have so many people around me who love me and support me and care enough to stand by me through the good and the bad. I’m thankful that God never places people in my life who aren’t supposed to be there. The relationships that may seem unhealthy, always find a way to end themselves and in the end, I have learned so much from them. The relationships that carry such an abundance of love and blessing manifest into my life and lift me up higher and higher every single day.
One of the first relationships in my life was with my Grandmother. She was the only grandparent that I had the privilege to know. This woman was the definition of love. I was the most luckiest girl in the world to live with her from the moment i was born until her dying day when i was 10 years old. In this time, she taught me that prayers are powerful. She taught me that massages can heal my broken heart. She taught me that coconut oil is a staple. She taught me that culture is art – be it in food or in music. She taught me that family comes first – no matter what. She taught me that stories and laughter are the best ways to learn. Most of all, she taught me that I need to be thankful for each blessing in my life. It has been fourteen years as of October 12th since she died but, the relationship I had with her will never fade away. She made me who i am today. I will always be thankful for her.
The apple never fell far from the tree. My mother was just as amazing as my grandma. I am so thankful for the 19 years I had with her. She was the most selfless person on planet Earth. This amazing woman would stand by me through thick and thin. She would stay up until all hours of the night to pick me up from rehearsal or from dates or whatever antics I was up to. She would give me the last of her money so that I could have fun with my friends. She would be on every parent council. School, Cadets, Sparks, the Gujarati Association in partnership with Vidhya Kunj Gujarati School, you name it. She was always there.
She would do it with a smile. Never once did you hear her complain no matter how tired she was. She was fun! She was so much fun! She was my partner in crime. I’ll never forget this one time.. we had just bought matching cell phones with Virgin Mobile. On our drive home, we were so excited to use them but we had no clue who to call. My mum spotted this furniture delivery truck with a message on the back. It said something along the lines of, “How’s my driving? Please call … ” whatever the phone numbers were. So we dialed. A lady answered the phone and my mom announced that the driver was doing a great job. You might all be tired of hearing about my mom from all my posts… but, I don’t ever get tired of talking about her. I love her so much. She was, she is and she will always remain my bestie.
The generational line of awesomeness didn’t stop there. My sister – Amy. I know you’ll read this at some point. Maybe by now you’ve already laughed and you’ve already cried. You need to know, there is so much of grandma and so much of mom that I see in you. If it’s not the amazing food you make, if it’s not how awesome you always smell… then it is your heart. The way you are so passionate about everything you do. The way you give and never expect anything back. The way you cherish every song you hear. The command of language that you have. You are the most beautiful woman in my life. Thank you for always looking out for me. Thank you for always being a listening ear and offering the best advice. Thank you for tough love… and calling me out when I needed to be called out. You have always been and will continue to be my role model. If one day I can repay you half as much as what you pour into me, if I can measure up to be half the woman you are today, I would be rich in all the ways that count. Thank you.
An amazing sister deserves nothing less than an amazing man. David, I always wanted an older brother… ever since I first watched Air Bud. You came into my life and became even more than that. You strolled into our family home in those blue jeans and that red and white striped polo. Those glasses and that dark hair…. my jaw dropped – after years spent looking aimlessly in cartoon books with no success, i finally found waldo. Now you’re my brother. You’re my friend. You’re my non-boring encyclopedia. You make the best Nestle Toll House Chocolate Chip Cookies and have the best artwork I’ve seen. You’re a gentleman and a scholar. You stand up for the under dog. You fight for what’s right. You set goals, you work hard and you prove to everyone that you’re not just another face in the crowd. Thank you… for just being you. You enrich my life. PS: thank you for the chewbacca mask – it’s ok that mines not movie quality. I still hate you. 😛
My papa. Oh! He is the joy of my life. He makes me laugh like no one else on this Earth could make me laugh. He bares the brunt of my PMS and never retaliates. He taught me to be thrifty. He taught me the value of each thing. He taught me that you don’t need a whole lot of money to be happy. He taught me that Supertramp, Van Morrison and The Beatles were musicians that will forever be in style. I am thankful that I can always count on him for a shoulder massage even if he sighs about it. He taught me to be kind to all animals but understood when I told him that birds, fish and reptiles weren’t really animals. So thankful for the chill papa who lets me wrap myself around his little finger. I’m so thankful to be daddy’s little girl forever and always.
To all my dear dear cousins – In Asia, In Europe, In The Americas, In Australia – the way you make me feel like I’m right there beside you. The way you love me even if we’ve never met, I can not thank you enough for proving that family is meaningful. Thank you for the laughs and the tears. thank you for the memories. The way I am looking forward to my trip to India this December isn’t even describable. I am planning my whole life around it because this will be the trip of a life time. How blessed am i to spend a whole month in the presence of family? Just living and loving. To my cousins here in Canada, when I’m with you I feel safe. I feel like I can count on you always. Sherin, Anahita, you’re not just cousins. You’re my sisters. We only see each other a few times a year but when we do, there are always memories to be had. Thank you for letting me be a part of the Pumpkin Patch tradition this year. It was an honour. The smile it put on my face to see little Lucy and Lily doesn’t begin to describe the joy that I was feeling in my heart. To re connect with Ian and with Brian… very new people in my life that I’m so excited to get to know more and more each time I see them. To all my aunties and uncles who take care of me. Who remind me of my mama. Who welcome me so graciously all the time, thank you for making me feel like your own daughter. Jessi Mami, Bomi Mama, i don’t know what I ever did to deserve you… but, “somewhere in my youth or child hood, I must’ve done something good”.
To my spiritual family. To everyone in flaming pens. To all my best friends and neighbours and long time life mates. To all my coworkers past and present. You all have made me who I am today. Each of you give me the chance to be the best person I can be. You inspire my creativity. You encourage my dedication to my work. You culture me with new and exciting things and places and people. You always get me to try new things. You push me out of my box or comfort zone so that I can grow. You teach me daily that playing is the best way of learning. I love each and every one of you. I am so blessed and overwhelmed with joy that you are all in my life.
This Thanksgiving I am thankful that God didn’t place me on this Earth alone. He surrounded me with his bestest creations… each and every one of you. I am thankful for my relationships. I wouldn’t know what I know, I wouldn’t do what I do, I wouldn’t eat what I eat, I wouldn’t speak the way I speak if it weren’t for each of you. Thank you for teaching me to do life as best as I can.