Journal, Motivational

Not My Circus, Not My Monkeys.

Try as you may, if you use social media (even just for cute memes and animals videos), you cannot avoid at least a little discussion of political, religious or social views.

There is a great debate between science and religion, the evidence of both a flat world and one which is an oblate spheroid, and of course the infamous argument between vaccine and anti-vaccine. The list really does go on.

Don’t fret; I’m not going to use this precious blog space to air my standpoint on each matter. I come in peace. I gravitate toward the memes whenever humanly possible, as I am sure you do too.

But, don’t you find that once in a while, you kind of get caught up in the ignorance and social injustices – even just the teensiest little bit?

Isn’t it funny how some people use some postulate to base their argument and presume to be some sort of expert on the matter?

But it’s like, Bish – your delirium presupposes that my world is flat and thereby discredits any accuracy within my argument. BUT I KNOOOOOW it’s mother flippin’ spherical! Not because I read a few misguided articles… but because science! So, don’t presume to know who I am!

Something I just learned, however, is that there are more than two sides to a story. There are infinite sides to every story! I mean, if stories were shapes, they would be an apeirogon! Which brings me to two other thoughts:

#1. Mean Girls – The Limit Does Not Exist
#2. Maybe the Earth is an apeirogon.

Ok, Ok, moving on…

So, if it’s true that there really are infinite standpoints on an issue, couldn’t these social justice warriors (even the misguided ones) exist outside of the Internet and in our daily lives?

COULD IT BE?

Misguided SJW’s are in my life… for REAL?!?!

You know – cause the ones online have to be fake… I mean they’re like trolls right? I assume they have green beards and beady eyes too.

Now I wish that unfollow button existed in real life and not just as pixels on a screen!

I digress.

It has recently come to my attention that our lives are very much a story in the lives of people around us. Not just friends, but also, passer-byers.

I mean, if we walk by on a bad hair day, maybe the plastics in the cafeteria will notice and maybe we will become subject to their discussion of fashion do’s and don’ts. They don’t even know your story, so why give their argument any credit?

Then there are those, somebody-that-I-used-to-knows out there. They eventually became mostly absent but still assume to know everything about you. They might feel like they have the right to call you out on what they believe to be true. They haven’t been around. So, take it with a grain of salt, and let them go.

I think the hard part in all of this is when you realize that maybe you were a part of those groups at one time. Maybe you question yourself because of who you used to surround yourself with. But, that was just one part to your story. You are so much more!

You don’t need anyone to tell you WHO you are. Not social justice warriors, not the plastics in high school, not that group you used to call, “friends,” not even that little part of you that carries self doubt!

The truth is, everyone is different. Every relationship is different. One of my dear friends recently pointed out to me that we often give credit to people who don’t deserve it simply because, “good people want to see the best in people,” he continued, “I’m not going to assume people are all awful until I see it myself.” You are right, Dan. So, thank you for that.

And so, let the people of the world read as many misguided articles, pay into slander and hear say but don’t you ever waver! Forgive yourself for even that one transgression and you do you, ladies and gentlemen! Don’t you dare sit there and take the kind smile with the accusatory insults. Your story has so much more than just that one side.

You need to find the memes of the world! The cute animal videos of the world! Look to the positive and leave behind those people who try to convince you of your downfall with their articles of untruth. Find all the other sides of your story and let them work together to create the best version of who you are.

Our lives are shaped like apeirogons. Our stories each have infinite sides. We are multi-faceted and diverse. So, if you must choose just one side. Choose wisely. Choose good. Let that build character within you when that teensy tiny part of you get’s caught up in theories.

As an old Polish proverb would have it, “Every time you feel yourself getting pulled into other people’s nonsense, repeat these words: not my circus, not my monkeys”
And then, just let them go.

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